
By Assunta Ng
Northwest Asian Weekly
Recently, my niece, whose married name is Kelly Kwon, held a sparkling Cinderella wedding in Austin. The venue had a smashing view of a lake and golf course. It was a well-organized event, with the help of meticulously detailed pages recorded on a spreadsheet. What a contrast to the wedding of my brother (her father) decades ago.
My brother got married in the late 1970s; it was a small, low-budget ceremony. Everything was self-made, from the bridal dress to the wedding reception. I volunteered for the task of preparing the bridal veil for my sister-in-law. I wasn’t an expert veil-maker, but I got stuck with the job because it was only a few days before the wedding and a veil had still not been procured. A friend of my brother made all the food himself at home for a reception of 50 guests. During the reception, I was asked to emcee at the last minute.
A simple wedding was not exactly what our parents had in mind. The elderly like to show off to their relatives. They want to show what a good family their kids are marrying into, so that they don’t lose face.
My brother and I belong to the generation of baby boomers. We work hard to give everything to the “baby busters,” as my son calls his generation. My peers and I assume that we will pay, not only for our sons’ educations, but their weddings, too. It doesn’t matter that wedding expenses in this country are normally the bride and her family’s responsibility.
An exceptional organizer, my niece Kelly was creative and superb in planning her big day. The couple had two receptions that blended three cultures — American, Chinese, and Korean — nicely. More than 500 guests in total, one in Austin and the other one in San Francisco, where Kelly and her husband, Jay, will live.
Many of my friends’ kids hold two receptions because the bride and groom grow up in two different cities, and sometimes, two different countries.
To the contrary, my husband and I had one reception, for the purpose of saving money.
In style, my nieces’s wedding was an integration of the couple’s personalities.
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